Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. Anyway, I digress. He shows no concern for me - and this has to be narcissistic personality disorder. I have learned from him that I have always mothered him and even though I am awesome, I have given so much with littleeffort in return because he is hyperfocused on his priorities. Press J to jump to the feed. Its pretty normalized at the point. Hed get one color half done, then start on a new color somewhere else. Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. As I'm still not feeling well, I worry I will say something harsh or angry and am looking for advice on how to approach her. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. (And he sees this as a good thing)half done, with walls half painted. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. :) Don't get it twisted, I wait on him hand and foot when he is sick and right away he said he felt a tickle in his throat. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. Many years ago I had appendicitis. I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. I was a great person to be around but the lies hurt and changed me. It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! Please share ~ the relief is amazing! Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. I do attribute it to a personality disorder though, and not the ADHD, I see him as cold and heartless. Bottom line? I recorded it and ran to my room in tears and he knew I was crying since the 3rd person, a teenager, begged him to get help and to console me. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? Confirmed. I dont expect to be doted on and coddled when Im sick, but some level of My husband was in complete denial and continued on with his multiple activities, trying to ignore his son suffering. He will do things like say "You are not sick!!" I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. When he arrived, he did not hug me, ask how I was, or show ANY CARE. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. You love me. He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. with love respect and truth! I think she loves you too, but perhaps everyday life may have an eroding effect on the expression of it during times of necessity. I agree with Truth..his kids come first. When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 17:29. And we would just keep saying hurtful things to each other. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. I occasionally get teary about it, my feelings were so hurt. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. An the cycle continues. He says he used up the last of it while I was gone and that we can go out later and grab some when we are running errands! Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. I would blame him for screwing up mine. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. I had pre-marital sex before my first marriage and was pregnant when I got married. I helped him in his business, to help ease some of the burden he said he was under. Kids pick up on stuff they're not ****ed. Gosh, feel better! I would not be happy with the scenario you outlined. he gets very angry. The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. Angry loud voice- "Where do youwant to go!?" In the first instance, you get his buy in. I sit on the couch and tell him I've got a fever. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. If he is in a tank with filtration, you need to change about 20-30% of his water weekly. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. WebMy (soon to be) ex wife had little sympathy whenever I was sick, and honestly it really sucked. Maybe I was expecting something like that. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. A perfect opportunity to "prove" himself right ~ WRONG! He is Always the "Victim" and Everything is Always My Fault! In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. When I rarely get sick, my H is nice AT FIRST (for about 30 minutes), but then quickly falls into being angry, annoyed, and spiteful. You cant expect people to stop. But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. Its a cultural thing as a whole. 2. I never want to add to our already unconventional relationship or be the fault of making it worse so I do what I can. She was in the hospital two days and has a 3 week recovery time frame. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. How does someone even DO that? I wish you the best. He reluctantly came up to the accident sight. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet. I've had to take a de-greaser and scrub them all down to get the old slimy grease off of all of them. In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. No expression. Submitted by adhd32 on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 13:56. Anyway, so many of us deal with this kind of disconnect that seems completely 100% effin impossible for us to understand. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. After 2 years of therapy for myself, I am in a better place. When she left for work she didn't even say goodbye. But one person doing all the nice things, loving things is very hard and eventually we all get tired of begging. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. That is my story for anyone that can benefit from it. Maybe a spouse is a lousy caregiver, or just as sick if not sicker; maybe you never noticed till now that certain local family members are better at receiving than giving. There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. I come first now. (and the smell, yuck) Even his clothes smell like old grease. He is withdrawing from you, and youre feeling alone. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. 2015 was the year that changed me some more. You're not the victim the kids are. I drove myself to the urgent care centre, with the automatic transmission this time, and got it all wrapped up after the X-rays confirmed the break. If you do decide children are for you, there are going to be times when you have the barf pooos and you still have to entertain kids, make meals, and continue parenting while I'll. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. When you find out your spouse is seriously ill, its natural to feel overwhelmed by fear and confusion. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. Someone who at times would look at me and just smile, (as if we shared a special secret), with eyes that showed gentleness, patience and strength, but with a reverent humility. Some otc antacids helped. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. All big red flags. He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. We are at retirement age, but will never GET to retire. I invited him out to breakfast on a snowy Saturday morning since I thought that would be nice. Sometimes that takes the form of cuddling or doing something together like a walk/talk. Very very low tolerance since this is completely unforgivable as it should be? Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. I felt like I was dying, inside and out. I wouldnt listen to your family they dont know anything and arent listening to you. No one has ever taken a day off when I was sick . As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. After all, when he is around me he can make me miserable by extension of his bad mood. Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. And that look on his face is what I will always remember. Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. Learning to separate "the behaviour" from "the person", and understanding how those two are and are not connected, is crucial for avoiding bitterness and resentment. This is not ok. We don't have kids yet. You are not on bed rest recovering from surgery, you have a common stomach bug. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. A few weeks ago, he reiterated (I think he's said this once before) why nothing worked: while he professed to wanting a relationship with me, he actually is unable to form personal connections. I actually yelled at him, told him how selfish he is. Talk to her and use 'I need" statements. I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. Acknowledge the wrongdoing. Describe what you did, and why it was wrong.Promise not to do it again. Mean it.Ask for forgiveness. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. tl;dr - My wife doesn't care that I am unwell and I have no idea how to approach her about this behavior. Yes, he also doesn't notice if I've become disconntected - I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. Well, to be frank, that will vary from person to person as we all display love in different ways. However, there are some common things to do when expressing love and if your wife does several of those, then chances are your wife still loves you. Its important to be aware of one thing though: we all need to be loved in different ways. Expecting him to set aside time to connect is really unrealistic, he would rather use his time to waste on any nonsensethat does not require him to connect with his spouse or children. We had an argument this morning where he says I am always in pain, etc. I want to leave him but my family is against it. Maybe talking to her would bring it to her attention. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. All 3 of her children had severe issues, which she blamed on them. Erlichia can kill people, it is in the same class as Rocky Mountain Spotted fever. Only a 4 inch drop, but tricky in a cast. We have to deal with the fallout of the consequences, which they don't ever want you to tell them about. My husband never realized what was happening right under his nose. I'm taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, making meals. Submitted by Resentful on Fri, 03/16/2018 - 09:54. He is so sick and depressed. I am better than begging and I am tired of it. Yeap. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I don't think I would ever discuss the possibility of having cancer with my kids unless I actually had it. Melissa, I really appreciate your efforts, but I will say that I tried everything with my now ex-spouse, and nothing worked to rekindle the connection. When he's not sleeping, he's making random 'sick' noises like sighing, I jokingly call(ed) her "Florence Nightingale" because even others would notice how completely oblivious she was/is to any illness or discomfort on my part. This is the response of a person who lives in the present. Now he is fine with it, he got used to it and I feel its because I did not cave in to the codependency. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. Make him whatever type of soup he wants, bring him medicine, rub his head etc. It wasnt until recently that I found an outlet for all of this junk in my head. There is something good though. Fortunately, theres a But still had to call SO to bring me a pair of shorts because the doctor was afraid my pants wouldn't be able to come off around the knee-high wrappings; SO was impatient on the phone, frustrated and impatient at the clinic, and upset about having their evening ruined after a long day. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. I do agree with you. She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. Newly wed so some things are quite new. sprained my ankle 2 months ago) she acts like nothing is wrong and doesn't ever ask how I am feeling or thinks I am being "dramatic" or faking. Ihave neglected you. After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. When I'm sick no one asks what I They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". If there's not arguments over dumb shit then something is wrong. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. It s supposed to make me feel better because it s not just me. A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. This is what it's been like living with my ADHD husband as well. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. Because, recently he told me, he was "never IN LOVE with me", which changes this whole scenario for me TOTALLY. Do you always expect your wife to cook everything? The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. So, for me, this could be more mental illness that just hasn't been diagnosed yet, and he is too afraid to find out anything else other than the "acceptable" ADHD. And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. I really appreciate your insight. You carry on, steady through the storm. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. Here is another way to think about it. Emotionless. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally If anything, I am stronger in your eyes. There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. That is when a person is the And vice versa if she's the one down ill. Can't really prepare good food when you're nauseous and fked up all over. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:07. But god forbid he do anything out of his way for me. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. (maybe?). Other times? I was recovering from major surgery ~ he saw it that I had 6 weeks off from work! Otherwise I think you need to stop acting like a child when sick. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. He told I just had the flu and went to bed. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. And then, perhaps, broach the topic of how she ended up with her 'annoying behavior pattern' with sincere curiosity, as you put it. WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. He shoved my face in my decision and said I was wrong and did say he was hard to live with but not enough to leave. Of course, the more the therapist learned, the more it just reinforced what he already knew. I am ok. Lol. Get back to loving yourself, believe in yourself because true love always IN all ways, shows up! My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. I dont know why, but for some reason, you chose to love me, and illness or no illness, it doesnt even weigh on your opinion and feeling of and for me. So many of the situations seem so crazily familiar. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. I think so. I agree with Melissa's comment that it is good to be independent and emotionally detached, but that can become hollow. Yeap, but there are moments I'm being shitty too so I thought to myself this is just fair. He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. Impatient to a fault, hates to wait, hates to wait his turn. Submitted by jennalemone on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 14:09. Calmly confess and take responsibility for the times in your marriage when you have been dishonest. My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. He did - but was very angry and mean about it. I drink a gulp of beer and a stoke of cigar and really feel love..for that moment. That takes some effort, but is doable by almost all. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. ADHD, doesn't give you the liberty of that most of the time. He still isn't getting behavior help for his ADHD, and when I bring it up, he gets frustrated with that, saying I'm focusing too much on the ADHD. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while I am a romantic to this day. Bring her gatorade, soup, crackers, etc. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). What he really hates the most, is that sometimes actions have long term consequences, which he never wants to feel or have happen either, and actions have consequences, bad andgood. It was horrible since I did it secretly. Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. Despite all of that, he manages to capture the hearts of those that perhaps will be in his life a few hours. I was treated for cancer a few years ago & this really threw things into sharp relief. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. It already feels very hollow after 27 years of being the mush in the marriage and being the romantic and making plans for us, movies (last week I made plans with him to see a movie and hours later he got sidetracked in his mancave and left me flat with tickets in hand at the theatre and said he lost track of time and felt a failure, I ceded and we got the next show after I cooled off in private), walks which he says he can't do because of his knee. I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. Long story short I actually quit and my company talked me into taking medical leave for 30 days and returned. 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. (again, fear). Etc. There's definitely a disconnect. Can totally relate to your post. If that had been me standing there coming to see me after all of that? I have loved you for a long time, and we have been through so much together, but what Ive recently learned is this: You could care less about my illness. I agree. Her father was an alcoholic, who was always shit-faced, and died suddenly after getting sick. I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. No hugs, kisses, attention, praise, cuddling just for cuddlings sake. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. WebBy sick, I mean a minor cold. This is daunting to say the least. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. We want to hear your story. Okay, WE?? And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. I had to pay out of pocket to see a naturopathic doctor trained by ILADS(it is the best training for Lyme disease and tick borne infections treatment.) I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? I do believe he is plagued internally by his demons and if I can't show compassion and let go of resentment, I would surely hate him for marrying me. Recently I was knocked down by a It's the thought that matters <3. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. it's not the same as OCD. And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. Remind her of how bad you feel and how much you'd appreciate her help while you recover. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. Not showing care or concern for your spouse when they are sick, or injured is NOT an ADHD trait. (I'm not sure if he came over on the Friday night from 9 pm to 8 am.). Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. Submitted by DependentOrigination on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 10:32. You cant change something you dont know needs to be fixed. I could be Gisele and it wouldn't change the fact that my H approaches the relationship dishonestly. I can see how the advocated plan/tricks might work to create connection. This is not the life you want. And I'm also feeling better. I will not beg for attention as I did in the past, crying because I was lonely. But I truly think my husband is being a pussy sometimes. Nothing sexual ever happened but after 2 years of him love bombing me, calling me hot, beautiful, his soul mate, his twin, etc, he would discard me when I got too needy and hoover me back in when he needed an emotional pick me up. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. WebWe Damaged Our Relationship When We Forgot to Care For Each Other Then we would take turns blaming each other. 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